According to Webster’s Dictionary, the word “ forgives”, means to pardon, to remit, to overlook.
Forgiveness, is the act of pardoning, remission which is to relinquish or simply let go.”
Gen 50:17 “So shall ye say unto Joseph, Forgive, I pray thee now, the trespass of thy brethren, and their sin; for they did unto thee evil: and now, we pray thee, forgive the trespass of the servants of the God of thy father. And Joseph wept when they spake unto him.”
Something unpleasant, painful, deep hurt or betrayal usually has occurred that makes an individual not want to trust the person that has caused them anguish and sorrow, this act of harboring one’s feelings, stems from the root of un-forgiveness. You would think that when a person is in pain, that they would want to do anything to get rid of it. But the willingness to forgive someone who has hurt or wounded you isn’t a easy task, it takes courage, and the ability to be able to look within yourself, and realize that something evil and destructive is eating at the very core of your soul, and tampering with your emotional and spiritual well-being. Do you continue to allow yourself to be tormented by spirits of malice, hatred, self-pity, anxiety, anger, and sorrow to bombard your mind, control your thoughts and cause your attitude and personality to undergo a metamorphous, into something or someone you no longer recognize as yourself?
Matt 6:14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
Matt 6:15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. KJV
In order to be able to forgive someone, you must be willing to ask forgiveness for yourself. The parable of the woman, who had committed adultery and an angry mob prepared to stone her to death, depicts exactly how quick people are willing to judge others, without first examining themselves. Jesus bent down and wrote this phrase on the ground in front of her accusers,
John 8:7 So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
John 8:8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.
John 8:9 And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.
John 8:10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
John 8:11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more. KJV
One, by one the woman’s accusers left the scene. Why? Because all of them were guilty of some act of sin, and their conscience wouldn’t allow them to judge the woman, without judging themselves. This doesn’t remove the woman of her guilt, or crime, she was accused of an act that she probably did commit, yet Jesus showed compassion by teaching forgiveness.
Every time pain engrosses your life, and you want to linger in the halls of remorse and build a protective wall around your heart and vow, that you’ll never allow anyone to cause you further pain or sorrow, you are walking down the path of un-forgiveness. It is a lonely road, full of thorns and bristles that wound your pride and ego. It is a road full of curves, you can’t see where you are headed, and pitfalls await you to cause you to fall into despair and depression. The only travelers on this road are those full of misery, for we all know the saying, “Misery loves company.”
There are plenty of exits off this pathway, but most people choose to ignore them, and continue on their journey towards self-destruction. Some are bound by chains, which only forgiveness can loose. For when you refuse to forgive, you take on a burden of heaviness and the joy of life is slowly drained from your soul, grief and sorrow become your constant companions.
The act of forgiveness is something that you must be willing to do, not just say the words. You can still hold a grudge against someone, and it holds you in prison, while the other person remains free! Forgiveness must come from the core of your soul; you will begin to feel the warmth of its embrace running through your being as you change your course, and begin to travel a brighter path that leads to your restoration.
When we forgive one another, we are restored and we have a different and clearer vision, a better understanding of who we are, even though we may never understand why the person who offended us committed the action that wounded and left and open sore. Jesus is the balm of Gil’le’ad, His love is soothing, like a salve that is placed upon a cut or wound, to purify, cleanse and keep the sore from festering and stop any contamination or poisons from infecting the entire body.
We all have faults; there is none that are perfect. Perfection is to be sought after, but not easily obtained.
1Cor 13:4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
1Cor 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
1Cor 13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
1Cor 13:7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. KJV
As Christ hung on a cross, thousands of years ago, two criminals were his companions. One openly scorned and ridiculed him, even in his dire situation, he showed no mercy or compassion to another comrade that was sharing the same fate as him, “hurting people, hurt people.” This man couldn’t look beyond his own faults, to offer any words of encouragement or hope to someone else in similar pain and suffering. How typical that when we are wounded, like a mad dog we will attack anyone that draws near, even those who may be trying to help us. The second criminal saw an opportunity and took it. Although he was dying, this man’s vision was clear enough to recognize someone who didn’t deserve the shared fate of being put to death by crucifixion. Whatever he saw in Jesus that fateful day, he had the wisdom to know that it was a far better thing that what he now possessed, and he cried out to Jesus,
Luke 23:42 And he said unto Jesus, Lord, remember me when thou comest into thy kingdom.
Luke 23:43 And Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, To day shalt thou be with me in paradise. KJV
In the midst of much suffering and pain, Jesus still had time to reach out to someone else in need of his compassion and forgiveness. He prayed unto his Father in heaven,
Luke 23:34 Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots. KJV
I believe there comes a time, that you have to cry out to God, even as Christ did and ask Him to forgive the ones who have trampled over your feelings, caused you pain, suffering and grief. In other words, you have to let it go, and give it to God. Until you are able to release your pain, it will continue to hold you prisoner in life and death. Would you stand before God, thinking that you have lived the life of a Christian and be found with un-forgiveness embedded in your heart? Will you take it to the grave with you, rather than asking forgiveness for those who have trespassed against you?
Eternity is too long, and hell is too hot, for a child of God. Therefore to avoid ultimate damnation, we must be willing to forgive ourselves, one another and God. For many people blame God when something unpleasant or bad happens to them, or people they love, others take on the guilt and responsibility of blaming themselves for whatever went wrong. When this is done, the person becomes stagnated, and the stench of bitterness and resentment is like a bag of open garbage, that the residents can’t smell because it has been in the home too long and has become familiar with all the others scents. Only someone from the outside, coming in, can smell the foul odor, or when the resident steps outside, and takes a breath of fresh air, realizing that something in their home smells bad. A clean person will immediately remove the garbage away from the residence so that the smell will not linger or draw germs and disease to their premises. When you forgive, you must get rid of all the garbage and un-wanted baggage that you have been carrying. Move it out, away from your spirit, and turn your back on it, and walk away.
How do you do this? Pray. Pray for yourself, and those who have inflicted pain and suffering upon you. Pray and ask forgiveness for them and yourself. Pray and ask to be cleansed and set free. Prayer changes things, and people. The person you prayed and asked forgiveness may not change, but you will, and that’s the most important factor, that you are able to forgive those who have wronged you and move forward. Don’t look back, just move on.
Here’s a Prayer that you can pray to ask God to help you forgive. “Our Father which are in heaven, hallow would be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. , Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us of our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power and the glory forever. Amen. ” Matthew 6:13
“For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; But if you forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. ” Matthew 6:14-15
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